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mike posted a condolence

Saturday, February 28, 2015

i am sorry i was not there for you at times - whether it was work or any excuse or reason that may have come up that was acceptable.... you hated falling asleep without me when i was out of town. you were always by my side when i needed you and i knew that you loved me my darling.... i can't help but wonder what you think of me now, knowing all truths about me and my foolish ways, my rotten sinful nature and the looser that the last few years have proven me to be..... yet you still loved me and knew the man inside and lifted me up, even when i thought i didn't deserve to be. you believed in me when i didn't believe in myself.... you seen the man i was and the man i could be all wrapped into one - yet you seen the man i hope to be and loved me for who i was. this is one of the best pictures i have ever seen of you, it is so perfect to capture the real Julie that was here for a short while. i surely did not deserve so great a love in my life as you. i am at a total loss and without words to say how much i miss you.... The closing thought on the program today read this: "Grief never ends but it changes. It is a passage, not a place to stay. Grief is not a weakness or a lack of faith..... it is the price of love....." I am glad to be paying such a price, i didn't know i could anymore. i never wanted to again, yet now i will hand over all the tokens i have been saving up......i miss you and will always love you my sweet Julie. til we meet again on them golden shores, yours forever - Michael 'your funeral was today my sweetie.... am sorry i could not get up and say all the wonderful things about you i wanted to say. i sat in the back row in a corner and tried to hide my grief under a hat and hoodie, i could not believe this was happening to me and that you wouldn't be there anymore and have avoided dealing with these feelings for 8 days now - until today..... am listening to one of our favorite tunes now over and over again - the cranberries, when your gone. we loved that song..... i am sorry i was not there for you at times - whether it was work or any excuse or reason that may have come up that was acceptable.... you hated falling asleep without me when i was out of town. you were always by my side when i needed you and i knew that you loved me my darling.... i can't help but wonder what you think of me now, knowing all truths about me and my foolish ways, my rotten sinful nature and the looser that the last few years have proven me to be..... yet you still loved me and knew the man inside and lifted me up, even when i thought i didn't deserve to be. you believed in me when i didn't believe in myself.... you seen the man i was and the man i could be all wrapped into one - yet you seen the man i hope to be and loved me for who i was. this is one of the best pictures i have ever seen of you, it is so perfect to capture the real Julie that was here for a short while. i surely did not deserve so great a love in my life as you. i am at a total loss and without words to say how much i miss you.... The closing thought on the program today read this: "Grief never ends but it changes. It is a passage, not a place to stay. Grief is not a weakness or a lack of faith..... it is the price of love....." I am glad to be paying such a price, i didn't know i could anymore. i never wanted to again, yet now i will hand over all the tokens i have been saving up......i miss you and will always love you my sweet Julie. til we meet again on them golden shores, yours forever - Michael

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mike posted a condolence

Saturday, February 28, 2015

your funeral was today my sweetie.... am sorry i could not get up and say all the wonderful things about you i wanted to say. i sat in the back row in a corner and tried to hide my grief under a hat and hoodie, i could not believe this was happening to me and that you wouldn't be there anymore and have avoided dealing with these feelings for 8 days now - until today..... i met Julie in the fall of 1996 on a call one day to clean her carpet in her townhouse. we talked and talked and ended up going dancing that night with her nephew Mac. we started dating the next day i guess for we were never out of touch or sight of each other for more than a day after that.....lol, she kept the original coupon i gave her that first day, it is still on her fridge. we kept it to remember our first meeting. she made it easy for me to remember our first date anniversary. this picture of her is what she looked like when i first met her, 'cept it was early in the AM and her hair looked like a bunch of snakes tied in a ball she would say, lol. we decided to move in with each other after a few weeks of dating. she drove home with me a couple months later to meet my family in minnesota. the loved meeting her and we had mucho good time up in the northern states! my mother gave Julie the 'evil eye' when she seen her.... so i didn't much talk to my mom after that. my dad and brother thought she was very cool and 'slightly crazy' and wished us the best... Julie and I did not receive the warmest of blessings from her immediate family after we started dating.... they even pulled an 'intervention' on her and tried to talk some sense into her about going out with me.....but we didn't care what they thought. Over the next few years we enjoyed rooting for our 2 favorite football teams, the Chargers and the Vikings- that of course lead us to a buncha swearing and weeping, lol!!! We were there together as the 1997 U of Arizona Wildcats won the NCAA tourny, being the first team to defeat 3 #1 seeded teams... we watched ALL them games together and went down to the stadium the day 25 motorcycle cops escorted the champions into the stadium on the U of A grounds.... we used to go to the top of 'A' mountain and look out over the city. we went through the Xmas lights one night with Mac and she was there when Mac and i found the most unusual restroom... i was there when she got us kicked out of Pinkies billiards cause she wondered into the mens restroom and wanted to stand in there and talk to everyone as they washed their hands ( was not happy about that one at the time, lol) was with her when we went to all her grandkids soccer games and we rooted and cheered and had a blast of a time!!! she loved seeing you girls out there, she talked for hours about it later and bragged to our friends about all 3 of you (terrys' daughters) - she was so proud of you and had the best time ever seeing you all play!!! i got to share in her grief....deaths in her family were hard on her.... i am glad she had a shoulder to cry upon through all the tradgedies and divorces and challenges she and her family faced since i met her - i would not want her to go through that alone, i am glad i was able to be there for her, to comfort her. she was always there for me. she even learned how to play chess and cribbage so we could spend time doing the same things... i never seen that in a gal before. i didn't realize how blessed i was by you my sweetheart. and i tell ya, it is not easy learning how to play chess at 55 years old! and she did get kind of good at it!!! i never could break her habit of watching soap operas..... lol. she actually got me watching one of them with her before it went off the air and i would ask "what happened to Dr. whatshisface today?' all of our friends in Tucson loved Julie. chuck & nikkie would do anything for her. brian and stacy, paulie and his family, ronnie and his kids, craig and his family.... all the vikings fans we used to hang out with, Pat and his wife, their parents and brother and his family. would have been 3 times the turnout for her service today if it was held in Tucson, AZ.....i begged and pleaded with her to go back home after she granted her mothers last wish - to not die in a nursing home. she moved back to utah about 9 years ago to fulfill a promise she made to her mother leola. such a total sacrifice of ones life to honor her mother. but she did so and was so happy helping her mom - a task that would seem impossible to ANYONE, even her siblings.... but she did it, mostly alone 'cept for the help of my wonderful brother and her nephew Mac - a blessed man who has also gone out of his way to help Julie and her/his family. a good guy in my book. i have gotten to see the good and the bad side of Julies family since i have known her, and vice versa. this is not the place for that for Julie never hung onto the bad memories or the thoughts that would divide a family.....

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Carol Devitt Thomas posted a condolence

Tuesday, February 24, 2015

Julie not only got me my first job at Erma's Beauty Salon but ended up being my sister-in-law. she was every thing that has been said before his fun loving and kind....my Brother and Julie had the cutest baby girl and along with all Julies dogs', Teri grew up not afraid of them at all ... My Mother had a baby boy, Clint at the same time and every time she would baby sit for them and go down to the store, people would say " oh are these your grandkids and are they Twins they look just alike." big brown eyes dark hair beautiful smiles etc." We are so glad that Julie would share Teri with us as our own... family parties, reunions, & family occasions . After they were divorced, Brent Joined the Service in the Navy and missed out on the growing up of Teri Lyn - but we have all loved her so ! love you Julie & Teri from aunt Carol

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Jeanne Lewis posted a condolence

Tuesday, February 24, 2015

Jaime and Teri, my heart goes out to you for the loss of your mom. As you know, mothers are special, unique and precious. No life is ever perfect but we are so fortunate to be able to remember the best and the most loving moments of those who leave this world before we do. The tribute to Julie (above) is beautiful and very well written and I'm sure she appreciates it. I think it is lovely, as is her picture. Even when we were in school I always thought Julie was such a beautiful girl. I learned some things about your mom that I wasn't aware of and it made me smile, even laugh. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your families. May your mom rest in peace and may you both feel peace and tranquility in your hearts. I love you. Jeanne

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Jake mills posted a condolence

Tuesday, February 24, 2015

I new Julie very whell when she first moved to American fork I was about 11 and I new her mom and sister from living around the corner from me I was all ways over there helping with anything I could if it was the garden or in the house I loved Julie very much so and I all ways will we had the best times together if it was fishing or shopping or evean just Taking buddy on walks after she got him as just a pup about 5 or 6 years ago and trained him into a dog every one wishes they could of had them selves I will truly miss Julie but will also no she is with Jayson and her mom and sister forced love Jake mills

Julia Raylene Mills Swank

Saturday, February 28, 2015

Proudly Serving all of Utah, with full service facilities in American Fork, Highland, and Utah County!

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Alan & Annette along with the fifth
generation in the business, son Alec, have now completed and established our second facility in Highland, Utah. We have been serving the community with faithful service for five generation and more to come.

Julia Raylene Mills Swank

Saturday, February 28, 2015

Proudly Serving all of Utah, with full service facilities in American Fork, Highland, and Utah County!

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About UsAlan & Annette along with the fifth​generation in the business, son Alec, have now completed and established our second facility in Highland, Utah. We have been serving the community with faithful service for five generation and more to come.

About Us
Alan & Annette along with the fifth
generation in the business, son Alec, have now completed and established our second facility in Highland, Utah. We have been serving the community with faithful service for five generation and more to come.